Wait, what are you saying exactly. Are you trying to bring forward the topic of players being butthurt for dying?

There are two major factions in my eyes on this server. The empires and the pirates. The empires try to act “civilized” for a lack of better terms and only fight and raid with justification and reasoning behind said conflicts (most of the time) They use a lot of politics and foreign relations to try and keep a general order or peace. Meanwhile, the pirates disregard the empires attempts to ensure domestic tranquility and raid and plunder according to their own agenda. There are certain pros and cons pertaining to each mindset. Pros of empires briefly consist of many allies and stronger “political” ties with other nations. This gives crews a general sense of safety and provides a group atmosphere in which large scale projects can be put in place with aid from other nations. The pirates ignore all of the “laws” (things in quotes refer to things that aren’t official server wide but are essentially driven by player morals) and can raid whoever they please and become very rich quick. Cons of an empire are the restrictions to the “moral code” as well as threat of pirates. They also tend to lack the PvP skills pirate crews obtain. Pirates lack server wide support of empires and must be powerful to survive usually through exemplary PvP skills and economic backing of farms/grinding. Both factions are two separate yet distinct play styles. You choose whatever one fits you best. But what do I know ;). Don’t take my advice, explore the server and forums yourself and play to gain your own understanding. Hope this helps.

P.s. no one likes butthurt whiners or hackers which probably drove some of the conflicts in which you read about

*apologizes if there are spelling/grammar mistakes, typed from mobile device

If you asking about the ‘morality’ of combat, that is a personal decision each person makes as to how they define morality, and if what they do honors that moral code. Some would argue that there is honor in being brave in combat, while other might argue that simply staying alive is the right thing at all costs, while others still would say victory at any cost brings honor, regardless of whether or not there was any real challenge or test of skill or strength (e.g. dinosaur vs. butterfly).  There are also those who see honor through service and non-combative means of problem resolution.

All that being said, I agree with many points Daniel brought up that this is just a game and to keep it in that context, and to realize that in the end, no one really dies, stuff isn’t really lost, stolen or destroyed, and everything, even your head, can be replaced.  And since it is people driving the action, you are going to run into situations where there are individuals, or even groups that are unnecessarily mean, cruel and unfair.  But then you will also run into some of the nicest people you will meet.  So, like life, its a mixed bag.  Just be prepared, have a plan, try hard, do your best, and learn from any mistakes. Oh, and above all, have fun! Good luck!