Ok, last thing I’ll say. Read this and all my posts with a nice ole grandad voice in your head, not angry dad voice XD.

Im sorry guys. I get the feeling that I have made some of you, both in this thread and my post, feel like I was discounting your voice or calling you out. I consider you guys friends and family after playing together for almost 2 years.

I have a bad habit of, in my head, changing the focus of what im saying from a specific thing to a general commentary about the world at large without saying it out loud. I assume everyone just knows whats going on in my brain XD. This habit has caused many small debates with my wife to explode into a crazy tear stained arguments until I figure it out and ask her why shes so upset. 90% of the time it is because I had shifted from the thing we were talking about specifically to the state of the world in relation to the subject. Which she thought was directing it at her personally.

I didn’t intend to make anyone feel like I was scolding or disappointed in them for making a report. You are correct in saying reports are sometimes the only way to bring offenders to justice. I and all of staff want reports to be made as its the only way we find things out a lot of times.

I certainly wasn’t saying here, nor in the post I made, that bullying is OK or victims should just get over it because its part of the game. As someone who has worked as a counselor for 15 years with victims of trauma/abuse I want to punch people in the mouth when they spout that just get over it crap. Yes choices need to be made but it is so much more complicated than that in real life. If that’s how it came across i’m sorry.

I was a victim of bullying as a kid both by my dad and kids at school so I understand that pain all to well. I only wanted to point out that the game play here was set up to allow a certain amount of aggression and staff has to account for that in making disciplinary actions.

I wasn’t saying that these offenders should not be punished. In this case I saw that Lucky had responded within the first 10 mins of the post and had taken care of the situation. I only entered the conversation after Wemb had mentioned I had given the green light on spawn killing deckies to let him know thats not what was meant to be taken from that post haha.

The whole thing of Be the Hero was one of those times where I had switched gears to speak in general terms to encourage and let folks know there is a solution available to put an end to those kinds of bullying behaviors. By banding together as a community and intervening in a situation to show bullies that that will not be tolerated by the community. I wasnt even thinking how it might make those who were making the reports feel as if I was criticizing them or telling them they did the wrong thing. Again for that im sorry.

There are already many authority figures in our lives discounting our voice and making us feel less than. And I for one do not want to be one of those voices.